A Little Progress

 I'm a fixer in the co-dependent realm.  Many years ago I learned to ask myself who I was actually helping when I wanted to fix something.  And that helps me to sometimes not try to fix someone's world.  Then I learned to say "That sucks" as an act of sympathy but not to fix.  That is a great one.

But I still find myself trying to fix things.  I interject advice when none was asked for.  I add my experiences in a conversation that was not about my experiences.  Hindsight says that can be a bit judgmental although that was never the intention.  It is surely how it feels when it happens to me.  

So I am working on my next step.  Not interjecting so much.  Listening for understanding not for my response.  Once in awhile I am successful.  But boy can I tell this is a hard one to make a new habit in my world.  I think it is progress just to acknowledge that I have this issue.  Because once I acknowledge it then I instinctively start to work on it. 

I'm making a little progress.