It has taken me three days to think about this. Life has this funny way of changing the trajectory of how things go. Tanya and I were family for over 30 years. But then it just drifted away. Sometimes that is just how it is. But over the years I have wondered about her and go looking for information. Hoping all is well. And it has been off and on.
Last week I had this sense that I needed to check and I found out that she had died. Much too young. She was 46 years-old. She left behind her husband, mother, brothers and five children.
Tanya had lost her first husband at a young age and raised two girls by herself. She had many complicated relationships. Had another baby as a caboose baby. Got married again. Ups and downs. Life.
I hope that she found joy and peace. I applauded her successes and lamented the losses. I always wished the best for her, but it took till my later years to process that sometimes someone's best is not what I think it is. I hope that she also found that.
I know, or have learned, that I can be judgmental. Life has a way of teaching and those things that I would have judgment on would circle back around so I experienced things and have epiphanies. I never told her that on things that I thought she did wrong. She just did things differently.
And so it is. Love and light always sweet girl. Give your dad a hug for me.
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